We’ve started a new video series with I Am a Mom & Pop where we focus more on the “heart” of stories. We originally started BB to get stories from entrepreneurs on how they started and what they’ve learned but now we are sharing the true struggles of what it’s like running a business and how it can affect your everyday life too. There are so many small and family businesses that have so much knowledge to share and we wanted to share our stories first to kick off the new series.
This week I turn 30.
Sorry, still getting use to saying that. I am finally done with my 20’s and movin on up. Some might say “30 is a big change and I hated getting out of my 20’s.” Well, honestly it doesn’t feel any different to me at all and I would rather be going forward than backwards any day. Can you imagine being in high school these days? No thanks.
It doesn’t bother me with turning the big 30 because that’s not what I struggle with. What I’ve been struggling with is that when I started all of this business with BB, production work etc. I had this idea that by the time I was 30 I would have something awesome happen or have something to show for the hard work that I put into what I do. Although I’m blessed with what I’ve done and the point I’ve made it to, my mind can’t help but realize that I had no clue that I would have to bury my middle sister in late July last year. I had a feeling that something big would happen like I said but not dealing with the death of my sister at her age of 25.
When something like this happens you try and figure out “why” or “if there something you could have done” but I can tell you there is nothing that you can do and you only make yourself sick worrying about it. At some point you have to let it go. I like to think that I balanced everything I did with work and life. I enjoy what I do and the people I meet so that was never causing me less joy in my life at all. But there is that competitive spirit in me that pushes forward of course. I used to talk with my sister Rachel about it all the time, even 3 weeks before she passed away. I was talking to her about work and she would say to me, “Just stop, breathe and look around you.” She always had a way of putting things and making me forget about work and to remember what’s important in life. She lived life to the fullest and to this day, I still feel she had an intuition about what was to come.
Like I mentioned in my last post, my life came to a halt and finding inspiration to work on what I once was doing didn’t even matter to me. I had to learn to smile again before I could even wrap my mind around what I needed to get done on a daily basis. I truly think part of this was to wake my family and I up with many things. When running family businesses, you’re worn out but the business depends on you at the end of the day too. I’ve changed some things up and stopped trying to stay ahead because it’s just exhausting especially with the way the internet and social media are with everyone trying to be the front runner.
Some might tell you that 30 is young (and yes I completely agree with that) but I also think that you can learn a lot in 30 years, if you’re paying attention too that is. Some say I’m an old soul and I would have to agree on that but it also allows me to pay attention to details that others tend to miss. I figured with the 30th birthday this week I would share some things that I’ve learned over the years. Hopefully you can relate or learn something new…
- Kids have it figured out. Listen to them more, they might just teach you something.
- Never judge someone before you learn their story.
- Don’t fight dirty, fight smart.
- Commonsense always wins over brains.
- Don’t allow people to get close to you too quickly, because most are going to break your heart or upset you at some point.
- A friend loves at all times. Real friendships never include jealousy.
- Religion is now just a word. The bible is the truth.
- If you’re an honest person, you will do well in business. People like honesty when doing business.
- No matter how good of a liar you are, things will eventually come out at some point.
- Don’t always assume people have your back.
- Success does not define you.
- A person’s group of friends can say a lot about them.
- Don’t surround yourself with negativity. It will eventually bring you down as well.
- Don’t ever get comfortable enough with your surrounding that you forget who you are and what you love.
- Don’t expect others to be there for you if you can’t be there for them too.
- A nice sunset can always remind you that life is good and that you lived another amazing day.
- If you don’t believe in God then go to the top of a mountain and look out. I promise it will change your mind.
- Money doesn’t mean a thing.
- A hearse doesn’t carry a luggage rack.
- If you can truly admit that you miss someone, then they are worth keeping in your life.
- No matter where you live there are always pros and cons.
- Listen more.
- If someone needs to talk, stop what you’re doing and focus on them.
- If something happens in your friends life, don’t wait for them to reach out to you. Go sit beside them until they are ready to talk.
- Some women never grow out of the high school gossip phase. You’ve been warned…
I literally could go on and on…but as my grandmother would say, “that will do for now.”
To anyone else turning the big 30 this week, cheers!
We Are Family…
It’s become very apparent to me that many are fascinated at the fact that I work with my family and we actually get along. Ha! I’ll be the first to tell you that it’s not always easy but I truly do love it despite the small spats we have occasionally.
We have really put a lot of the show focus on talking about family business topics that are not always discussed (actually hardly anyone talks about this stuff!). We are taking questions from everyone who wants to start a business with family members and being very transparent about what to expect when you take that leap. We’re blessed to have such a great family dynamic that carries over to our businesses as well. Not all have that but sometimes in business that’s where you truly bond or sometimes even stop speaking to each other.
Nobody seems to talk about these topics or at least be honest about what to expect so we are not holding back with any of it. We also are seeking out other businesses in different industries that are family-owned and can offer advice from their own experiences to share with our audience. We’re excited to really dive into these topics and bring them to the table for everyone. Please don’t hesitate to ask us anything on this topic and of course anything having to do with running a small business.
Taking a Stand For Small Businesses
If you saw the post from the other day about our new added launch called IAmAMomandPop.com, here’s the video that goes with it and the reason behind it all. Do you agree?
Not only are the stories we hear at BB inspiring, they are what America needs to hear right now. We were so inspired that we decided to start a little thing called IAmAMomAndPop.com Have you ever noticed that many small business networks completely don’t cater to what we call “mom and pop stores?” SBA considers a small business is one that makes $5 million or more a year and Family Business Magazine considers their audience someone who makes $30 million a year. We can honestly say, that’s not a small business.
That’s when it hit us that we have to be a voice for small businesses in this country or what we are now referring to as the “mom and pop” businesses. We have become basically a forgotten race in this country where many say they want to help but actually cancel us out of their groups. Right now the mom and pop shops are the ones who will bring back this great country to stand tall, not the government or corporate companies. It’s time that we get back to the basics of what small business truly means and that is going back to where the stores started. Whether it’s inspiration you want to share, a photo of your business or a message to small business owners, we invite you to visit IAmAMomAndPop.com (submit stories to firstname.lastname@example.org)
Take the stand and show everyone that we are not a forgotten race.
(also, stay tuned for much more on this topic very soon!)