This week I turn 30.
Sorry, still getting use to saying that. I am finally done with my 20’s and movin on up. Some might say “30 is a big change and I hated getting out of my 20’s.” Well, honestly it doesn’t feel any different to me at all and I would rather be going forward than backwards any day. Can you imagine being in high school these days? No thanks.
It doesn’t bother me with turning the big 30 because that’s not what I struggle with. What I’ve been struggling with is that when I started all of this business with BB, production work etc. I had this idea that by the time I was 30 I would have something awesome happen or have something to show for the hard work that I put into what I do. Although I’m blessed with what I’ve done and the point I’ve made it to, my mind can’t help but realize that I had no clue that I would have to bury my middle sister in late July last year. I had a feeling that something big would happen like I said but not dealing with the death of my sister at her age of 25.
When something like this happens you try and figure out “why” or “if there something you could have done” but I can tell you there is nothing that you can do and you only make yourself sick worrying about it. At some point you have to let it go. I like to think that I balanced everything I did with work and life. I enjoy what I do and the people I meet so that was never causing me less joy in my life at all. But there is that competitive spirit in me that pushes forward of course. I used to talk with my sister Rachel about it all the time, even 3 weeks before she passed away. I was talking to her about work and she would say to me, “Just stop, breathe and look around you.” She always had a way of putting things and making me forget about work and to remember what’s important in life. She lived life to the fullest and to this day, I still feel she had an intuition about what was to come.
Like I mentioned in my last post, my life came to a halt and finding inspiration to work on what I once was doing didn’t even matter to me. I had to learn to smile again before I could even wrap my mind around what I needed to get done on a daily basis. I truly think part of this was to wake my family and I up with many things. When running family businesses, you’re worn out but the business depends on you at the end of the day too. I’ve changed some things up and stopped trying to stay ahead because it’s just exhausting especially with the way the internet and social media are with everyone trying to be the front runner.
Some might tell you that 30 is young (and yes I completely agree with that) but I also think that you can learn a lot in 30 years, if you’re paying attention too that is. Some say I’m an old soul and I would have to agree on that but it also allows me to pay attention to details that others tend to miss. I figured with the 30th birthday this week I would share some things that I’ve learned over the years. Hopefully you can relate or learn something new…
- Kids have it figured out. Listen to them more, they might just teach you something.
- Never judge someone before you learn their story.
- Don’t fight dirty, fight smart.
- Commonsense always wins over brains.
- Don’t allow people to get close to you too quickly, because most are going to break your heart or upset you at some point.
- A friend loves at all times. Real friendships never include jealousy.
- Religion is now just a word. The bible is the truth.
- If you’re an honest person, you will do well in business. People like honesty when doing business.
- No matter how good of a liar you are, things will eventually come out at some point.
- Don’t always assume people have your back.
- Success does not define you.
- A person’s group of friends can say a lot about them.
- Don’t surround yourself with negativity. It will eventually bring you down as well.
- Don’t ever get comfortable enough with your surrounding that you forget who you are and what you love.
- Don’t expect others to be there for you if you can’t be there for them too.
- A nice sunset can always remind you that life is good and that you lived another amazing day.
- If you don’t believe in God then go to the top of a mountain and look out. I promise it will change your mind.
- Money doesn’t mean a thing.
- A hearse doesn’t carry a luggage rack.
- If you can truly admit that you miss someone, then they are worth keeping in your life.
- No matter where you live there are always pros and cons.
- Listen more.
- If someone needs to talk, stop what you’re doing and focus on them.
- If something happens in your friends life, don’t wait for them to reach out to you. Go sit beside them until they are ready to talk.
- Some women never grow out of the high school gossip phase. You’ve been warned…
I literally could go on and on…but as my grandmother would say, “that will do for now.”
To anyone else turning the big 30 this week, cheers!